When He Says No!

I remember dating a guy who had seemed to check off majority of the boxes in which I felt was a win win situation. He was tall, dark, handsome, an Educator, working on his doctorate, owned his own home, was a few years older than me, a believer, no children, outgoing, a gentlemen, and family oriented. An old friend of mine had introduced us, and I thought he was definitely a good fit because at the time I thought she was a credible source. We went on a couple of double dates, dates with one another, and talked on the phone frequently. I started to gain feelings for him, but there was something about him that prevented me for falling completely for him. Any time I dated a man or went on a date with a man I always had a consistent prayer: "Lord, If this guy is for me please allow him to stay, if he's not for me please delete him out of my life". I remember distinctly having a conversation with the man asking him about his past regarding his dating history. He indicated that he was married in the past, and that his divorce was going to be finalized at the end of that week. He revealed to me that he and his ex-wife were cordial, and that they were in the process of selling their home, and that they were going to split the money 50/50. I was thrown off because I had never been the type of woman so desperate to date a man that I'd be willing to become sloppy seconds to anyone. Secondly, I thought to myself, why are you out here making it seem like you're single when technically you're not? Last, you weren't honest, and you should have at least given me the choice whether I wanted to date you in spite of your circumstance. I ended up bringing up my concerns, and he indicated that I had nothing to worry about because they were done with one another. I gave it another week, and I asked how did he feel now that things were finalized. He indicated that his ex-wife wanted to have a conversation with him because she missed them being married. At that point, I was done because it was evident that the both of them were confused, and I did not want to be apart of any unwanted drama. It brought great disappointment to me because right when I thought I had scored, God showed me that I had not scored. What he did show me was the good qualities that were tied to where I was going, and what that would look like for my future. In spite of a shady circumstance, He showed me good traits that I hadn't consistently experienced (being courted, a good listener, someone attentive, driven, etc.). God also knew me his child, and spoke in a still voice, "patience". You have to decide are you willing to trust God in your dating journey? Even if it looks too good to be true, if he says NO are you willing to listen? Are you so desperate for a mate that you're willing to take the risk to play Russian Roulette hoping that your reality will change? Remember... one mans obedience is connected to so many destinies.